"Insight into childhood wounds is a critical element in therapy, but it isn’t enough.

 

People also need to learn how to let go of counterproductive behaviors and replace them with more effective ones."

Harville Hendrix, "Getting the love you want"

Welcome to the Relationship Clinic, a safe and intentional space for tending to your relationship. 

 

The Relationship Clinic is a workroom/laboratory where you get to explore and clarify what your relationship needs. It is a place where you pivot from what is not working to what works. And it is a space where you get to design new practices or a whole new way of being...together.

The relational research tells us that, when it comes to change, taking small steps often is much more powerful that making big leaps occasionally. 

The Relationship Clinic is designed to help you map out your desired relationship vision, to clarify the traps and the pitfalls and to identify a set of new steps/practices that would take you in the direction of your vision.

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The Relationship Clinic is designed for couples and individuals who:

  • Understand and believe that their relationships are vehicles for transformation and healing

  • May be experiencing a difficult or painful pattern in their relationship and who wish to clarify the nature of the pattern as well as the practices to help them pivot

  • Want to explore their individual attachment wounds and relational blueprints to see how those templates show up in the current relational dynamics

  • Want an informed opinion on how to refine their existing skills and/or troubleshoot the ones that do not work

  • Want a guide to collaborate with and hold space for their healing journey together

  • Believe that small steps are enough and necessary when it comes to change

  • Want and are willing to practice specific tools to deepen connection and move toward the joint relationship vision

“the unconscious trying to resurrect the past is not a matter of habit or blind compulsion but of a compelling need to heal old childhood wounds.”

Harville Hendrix, "Getting the love you want"

Details & FAQ:

  • The Relationship Clinic is a brief, but in-depth model of relationship work. We meet over two 2-hour sessions scheduled one week apart. ​

  • If you are interested in participating in the clinic, please e-mail me a brief statement about what you wish to tend to during our work together as well as what you most wish to receive/experience as the result of participating in the clinic.

  • Before we meet, I will send you a questionnaire, an attachment style worksheet and a basic Imago work-up sheet to get us started. Once I receive the completed packet, I may or may not reach out with additional questions. Once everything is in place, I will provide you with a couple of possible days/times to meet. 

  • While the Relationship Clinic is not therapy, it is therapeutic. I utilize my skills and expertise as a trauma-informed, Imago-trained psychotherapist and I serve as your guide, coach and collaborator

  • The Relationship Clinic sessions are uniquely structured to tend to each couple's and each individual's specific vision/needs/presentation. Despite each session being uniquely tailored, most sessions include a general framework/trajectory, a collaborative discussion, specific tools/skills practiced during the clinic, practices/skills to take home.  

  • The Relationship Clinic cost is $595+NM tax. ​

     

      

Can I participate as a single person hoping to take a look at my relational patterns? 

Yes! My lens is deeply relational and so even when I work with individuals, I hold their relationships and their relational nature very presently.

 

The Relationship Clinic is a deep dive into a particular "issue"/question that you wish to look at. Together we can look at what's important to you, so that you can create a road map for how you want to live and love in alignment with your relationship vision.

Do you do anything by way of a follow-up after someone has participated? I imagine a follow-up would be helpful as we try to incorporate what we've learned...

I've created the Relationship Clinic to be a complete offering. Based on your initial inquiry, we will collaborate to consider a meaningful trajectory for the work together.  Each Relationship Clinic is a snapshot that is valid and usable
 
That said, we can discuss whether one or two follow-up meetings would be needed/beneficial after you're done with your two clinic sessions.

What's the difference between the Relationship Clinic and the  traditional couple's therapy you offer? 

That is a great question! There is generally one inquiry line that we "workshop" during the Relationship Clinic. This inquiry line can be quite broad/central to the relationship. However, unlike the long-term therapy, the Relationship Clinic is focused on a specific angle or two that can address the inquiry at hand. 

Please see below the "questions" that would work well for the Relationship Clinic vs. those that would be better suited for the traditional couple's therapy.
 
 

Unsure whether the Relationship Clinic is the right option for you? Let me know what you'd like to work on.

Examples of "questions" that would work well for the Relationship Clinic

  • We continue to fight about the same thing? Why? What is a way out of that dynamic?

  • The difference in needs/preferences or the misalignment of expectations in the relationship. What does it mean for the relationship? How to create connection?

  • We love each other, but we're drifting apart. We want to understand why this is happening and how to find our way back to each other.

 

  • Why do I/we get so triggered? I want to work on being less reactive in my relationships. 

  • A general sense of insecurity in the relationship. What's going on and how do we create more security? 

The dynamics/topics that are better suited for the traditional couple's therapy:

  • A long-standing history of severe conflict

  • A history of severe trauma that continues to impact the relationship

  • Unhealed/recent experience of betrayal 

  • A significant/chronic lack of trust in the relationship 

  • A general presence of contempt/hostility in the relationship

  • A high level of dissatisfaction with the relationship for one or both partners